Answers When You Find Yourself Asking “Why Me God?”

“Why me, God?” is a common question when life just doesn’t make sense or bad things happen. No one expects a carefree, perfect life. We believe God loves us with a faithful and everlasting love. But sometimes life’s burdens are heavy, and we would like an explanation.

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Have you ever thought that questioning God was wrong? Is there a verse in the Bible that says we shouldn’t question Him? If He loves me, why am I going through such hard times?

You are not alone if you have ever asked these questions. These are legitimate questions and concerns. Leaving them unanswered can lead to a crisis of faith, so let’s address them.

Is it Wrong to Question God?

God wants us to come to Him with our worries, concerns, and questions. I would say it shows the depth of your relationship when you know God listens and you are seeking His wisdom.

He most definitely does not want you to turn away from Him or question His love for you during the hard times!

Powerful emotions usually accompany hard trials. Anger, grief, loneliness, and fear are common, God-given human emotions.

Expressing them doesn’t cancel out our faith. Even Jesus felt anger, sadness, grief, exhaustion, and frustration.

It’s better to speak to Him about what we are feeling (He knows anyway!) so that we don’t become overwhelmed. We never have to question God’s love and care.

Who Questioned God in the Bible?

A better question might be- who didn’t question God in the Bible!

The Old Testament prophet Habakkuk questions God. He cries out to God in the entire first chapter of his book.

I love his boldness and confidence in coming before God, which stemmed from his love for God’s people and hatred of the evil he saw happening all around him.

Here’s how his book begins:

“How long, O Lord, must I call for help, but you do not listen? Or cry out to you, ‘Violence!’, but you do not save? Why do you make me look at injustice? Why do you tolerate wrong? Destruction and violence are before me; there is strife, and conflict abounds.” Habakkuk 1:2-3.

God’s dealings with His people perplexed Habakkuk. He brings his honest doubts and questions to God.

God answers Habakkuk’s questions, and even though Habakkuk’s circumstances don’t change, he no longer has doubts or feels confused and frustrated.

Habakkuk never forgot God’s pure holiness and sovereignty and waited patiently for Him to give him answers. He asks God to reveal His power and glory in the situation. 

He didn’t let his complaints and concerns lead to doubt, but leaned on the strength of God.

What’s important to remember- we need to come before God as Habakkuk did- with humility and a willingness to hear what God has to say.

David Questions God

King David was in a pit of despair, feeling completely alone and abandoned by God.

“How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me? How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart?” Psalm 13: 1-2.

God’s timeline was frustrating David, and he felt neglected by God. He believes God has forgotten him and was putting distance between them.

In times like these, we need to remind ourselves of what God has promised. His timing is perfect, He is with us always, His love for us is higher and deeper than we can ever imagine…

John the Baptist Questions Jesus

You are not alone if you are having doubts about your situation.

As John the Baptist sat in prison, he doubted in Jesus as Messiah. He sent word to Jesus with the question- “Are you the one who is to come, or shall we look for another?” Matthew 11:3.

John was born to prepare the way for Jesus. His parents raised him to know this purpose and John carried it out splendidly. He baptized Jesus and saw the spirt of God descend upon Him.

And yet, when he ended up in prison, he began to question and doubt the works of God. But within his doubt, he did the right thing- he sent friends to Jesus to ask for His wisdom.

Asking God Questions

The list goes on and on. Mary questioned the angel of the Lord when told of her pregnancy. The disciples questioned Jesus on many fronts. 

Doubting Thomas questioned the validity of His resurrection. It seems to be part of our human nature.

Even Jesus questions His Father:

“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Matthew 27:46.

 Jesus understood the Father’s plan of redemption and went willingly to the cross. But as He suffered a spiritual death- separated from His Father for the only time in His life- Jesus cries out in anguish.

This brings tears to my eyes. We never, ever have to wonder if Jesus loves us, or if He understands what we are feeling. He has been through it all.

 Don’t be afraid to ask “Why me, Lord?” He will give you what you need to work through your trials.

Job Questions God

Job’s suffering is a well-known Bible story. Even though Job loses everything and doesn’t understand why, he holds fast to what he knows about God.

He tells his wife and friends that God had blessed him, and God had taken away. If God permitted his trials, then they would work for good.

It wasn’t until his friends led him to believe he was reaping the unjust rewards from some misdeeds that Job questions God’s character.

Job’s friends erroneously believed that only good things happened to good people and bad things happened to bad people.

They thought Job was being punished for his sins when bad things happened.

Job despairs as his pain and suffering go on and on. At that point, he asks God to explain why he was suffering.

Like Job, we want answers when bad things pile on, especially when we are trying our best to be a good person and live for God.

Why Does God Allow Suffering?

This is a big topic, but let’s explore it a bit. The fall explains the causes of some of our suffering.

●Our heavenly Father gives us free will to accept or deny Him. He wants us to come to Him from a place of love. Suffering comes when we use that same free will to rebel against Him. 

We can make a poor choices or poor decision resulting in pain and suffering. We see things go south right away when Adam and Eve exercise their free will to do as they please.

●Sin contaminated God’s perfect world, leading to a curse on the land. Droughts, famine, floods, and other natural disasters happen daily around the world.

●We have contaminated and polluted God’s world with substances that cause diseases that bring suffering, disease, and death.

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Questions for God 

●Instead of asking God “why me,” perhaps better questions are, “how can I grow through this trial?”, or “what do you want me to learn?”

●Ask Him if He is protecting you from something or has something better to give than what you have lost.

●Or we could ask, “Why not me?” It shouldn’t surprise us when we suffer through trials of all kinds. This question helps us focus on others instead of ourselves. 

Use your trial and the things we learned about God to help others. There are many hurting people that need someone to come alongside them with love and care, just as He does with us.

God, Be With Me!

Life’s circumstances are not always fair. Bad things happen to good people.

But our loving Father doesn’t want us to just plod through our trials with heavy hearts. He wants us to lean on Him; allowing Him to console us and guide our steps. Consider these truths:

●We have the Holy Spirit to help us through our trials. He will strengthen and sustain us; helping us carry our burden.

●When we don’t even have words to pray, the Holy Spirit prays for us “with groans that words cannot express.” Romans 8:26. He will search your heart and bring perfect intercession for you.

●Part of living our life here on earth is keeping our eyes on heaven with an eternal perspective. We are only passing through this life with all it’s pain and struggles.

●Our enemy wants us to dwell on the difficulty of our struggles and lose trust in God. He would love it if we stop communicating with God and turn to worldly comforts. 

The Apostle Paul, however, tells us to “set our hearts on things above.” Colossians 3:1. Jesus is on His throne- connect your thoughts and heart to Him when you are overwhelmed. Pour everything out to Him and search His Word for truth and comfort.

●Keep asking questions and claiming God’s promises. Keeping your eyes on Jesus and in faith, let Him lead you through your trial, in His way, in His time.

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Blessings of Comfort,

AnnMarie

All Scripture is taken from the NIV unless specified otherwise.

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2 thoughts on “Answers When You Find Yourself Asking “Why Me God?””

  1. Thank you for this insightful blog Ma’am AnnMarie. I’m wondering how you’re doing right now.
    It’s been awhile since I posted my last comment.😊

    I love this part : “set our hearts on things above.” Colossians 3:1. Jesus is on His throne- connect your thoughts and heart to Him when you are overwhelmed. Pour everything out to Him and search His Word for truth and comfort.
    This is what I do when I feel that I am overwhelmed.

    I’ve read also about Job, David questioning God and about the potter and the clay as well.

    I got sick for almost 4years and I thought I was gonna die then. The pain in my body that I have suffered from was inexplicable , it was excruciating it didn’t put me to sleep the whole night when the pain first struck me , and there were many other sleepless nights. But by His grace, I didn’t question Him , for I know that even in my suffering, He’s still there. I’ve learned to understand that even if God seems to be silent, He is always at our side and He is working out things for us for our own good.

    So whenever I’m in pain, physical or emotional , I just think of the cross or the scenes before Jesus was crucified. There’s no greater pain, sorrow than what Jesus our Lord endured and suffered so much from .

    1. It is comforting, isn’t it, to know that everything we go through, He has too. He is the perfect comforter and healer.

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